As previously mentioned I am doing all this to raise awareness of child abuse. It's important that every child find someone who will fight for them and not against them. As I have stated in the previous post these are my life experiences. They aren't a soap opera or a TV show this is my real life.
After telling the guidance counselor things would only get worse, things did get worse. My brother and I were always arguing and fighting. We are siblings that's what siblings do, fight and fuss. After one such incident in which we were fighting dear 'ol dad yanked me away from my brother and proceeded to beat my brother.
I'm not talking a smack on the butt, that I don't consider abuse. The first thing dad grabbed was a man's dress shoe. He brought his arm back and slammed it into my brother. I tried to jump in front of my brother. I tried to make it stop. He was too strong and managed to beat my brother and hold my mom, grandmother, and myself back. The shoe I guess wasn't effective enough and he tossed it to the side and a book was the next object to slam against my brother's twelve year old body. The shoe and the book weren't effective enough. He unbuckled his belt and pulled it out of his blue work pants and whipped my brother like the stories you hear about slavery and the masters that were abusive. When it was all done my brother had welts all over his back and was covered in bruises.
God, why wasn't I able to stop this insanity? I think to this day I still blame myself for this incident. If I had just kept my mouth shut when my brother and I were fighting... Why was that nasty man created?
My mom knew she had to find a way to protect my brother but what. She also knew that I had reached a stage in my life at which I fight back and she didn't need to worry about me. I'm way too vocal and had he touched me I would have gone to school and told and he would have been arrested. Which I should have done to begin with hindsight sucks. My mom enrolled my brother into Karate. It worked my brother and I fought less and he could now defend himself.
The old man raised his fist to my brother and my brother kicked him in the crotch. This was the beginning of the end of the physical abuse for my brother. The fact that my little brother could now kick his butt was a dream come true and now the abuser learns what it is to have pay back.
The old man stopped beating my brother. I guess it's real easy to beat up someone smaller than yourself, someone who can't defend themselves. Once my brother could defend himself we became unstoppable me with my sassy tell you off attitude and my brother with his Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle pizza loving self.
After my eighteenth birthday I moved to Cleveland, Ohio to go to school. I knew my brother would have been fine. I was no longer worried that he would get beaten. The tables had turned.
I did not get help through all of this. There was no escape. I didn't know what to do especially since the only guidance counselor I ever spoke to practically ignored me. There are other children who don't know what to do or where to go. That's why everything I do or say is so important. If you know or suspect child abuse it is more than important to report it. Children can't speak for themselves sometimes. Adults need to do it for them. Children are told "Don't tell" or "It's your fault." They don't understand that it truly isn't their fault.
So, once more I will offer a few resources and the numbers to call if you or someone you know is a child of abuse.
OVC Office for victims of crime.
CAPP "Since its inception in 1986, the Child Abuse Prevention Program (CAPP) has been at the forefront of arming children with the necessary tools to prevent and report child abuse. CAPP believes that every child receive their basic right to safety so that they can have the opportunity to grow and thrive. With their award-winning Child Safety Workshop, CAPP has found an effective and engaging way of teaching children the skills they need to recognize and resist abuse. Using life-sized Kids On The Block, Inc. puppets to provide school children with safety information, the workshops have reached over 300,000 children to date.CAPP aims to educate young children about their right to be safe. By doing so, CAPP sets a foundation for prevention; and if abuse is present, allows children to be heard. These children are assured that there is not something particular about them that caused the abuse to occur.CAPP actively combats the misconception that abuse will go away if we pretend it does not exist"
Prevent child abuse Texas "Prevent Child Abuse Texas (PCATX) is a statewide non-profit organization working to prevent child abuse and neglect in all its forms throughout Texas.The work of the organization depends solely on private grants and contributions.
We are led by a statewide Board of Directors who represent their regions through community agencies and organizations dealing with social issues affecting children."
Safe Child resources to keep children safe.
Ten ways to prevent child abuse
Reporting abuse numbers:
Child Help USA 8004-A-CHILD 800422-4453 (this is the number you would use if you reside in Mexico.)
Connecticut (CT)800-842-2288800-624-5518 (TDD/hearing impaired)
New Hampshire (NH)800-894-Jersey (NJ)800-792-8610800-835-5510 (TDD/hearing impaired)
New Mexico (NM)800-432-2075
New York (NY)800-342-3720
North Dakota (ND)800-245-3736
Rhode Island (RI)800-RI-CHILD(800-742-4453)
West Virginia (WV)800-352-6513
Canadian directory this has a list of numbers and places to go to in Canada to get help.